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14 Major Love
Your love style was developed very early in life,
and was influenced by a multitude of negative and positive
experiences. Without exception, no two styles of loving are
exactly alike. While genuine love can only be demonstrated in
behavior, there are many different ways of showing love.
Romantic Love Style:
They believe in love at first sight, and that if love is true, it
will overcome every obstacle. A romantic's love relationships are
based on very little factual information, and usually end with
shocking surprises and disappointments. Romance enriches life,
and the romantics of the world have created great literature,
monumental works of art, and spark a constant rediscovery of life
Dependent Love Style:
Dependent lovers make their partners the center of the universe.
Dependents are very jealous and have an insatiable need for
constant attention, reassurance and affection. Typically this
style will assume a passive role and allow the partner to decide
where they should live, friends, etc. Yet they are consistently
caring and supportive of the people they love.
God-Centered Love Style:
These lovers place God above everything else. A partner must have
a personal connection with God to be an acceptable mate.
Principles related to health, communication, sex, divorce,
parenting and gender roles are lived according to the scriptures.
Adherence to religious guidelines is mandatory. These lovers
function best under traditional structures.
Best-Friends Love Style:
Best friend styles prefer to relate to their partners as equals,
enjoying mutual support, companionship, sharing secrets and
laughter. They have usually known and interacted with each other
for years before realizing they were in love. Their compatibility
is easy and stressless. Their conflicts rarely involve
infidelity; more often they are about outside friendships.
Practical Love Style:
Practical lovers pride themselves on their ability to live
comfortably on a small budget. They are very private people and
tend to be disciplined, peaceful and well organized. They like
partners who are self-sufficient and not overly needy. Mates are
chosen by how they will affect their career and future security.
These types often fail to communicate plans, thoughts and ideas
to their partners.
Compromise Love Style:
Compromise styles usually attempt to make the best out of life's
circumstances without protest. They go with the flow, and
consider compatibility more of a mutual adjustment than a zodiac
birthright. They'd rather have a dependable partner than a
romantic or attractive one. They believe that romantic love is
overrated, and that true love takes time to develop. They will
often settle for partners that are not their equal.
Ideal Love Style:
Ideal lovers could never love anyone they would not consider a
suitable partner. They know exactly what they are looking for,
and will wait for the one who meets most, if not all of their
requirements. They base their partner selection on reality,
instead of potential (which is much too unpredictable). They tend
to be described as "stuck up" and have great difficulty
with frustration and rejection. They will call it
"quits" in a heartbeat.
Unconditional Love Style:
Unconditional lovers do not need a partner to return their
affection in the same ways as it is given, or to the same extent.
This style is self-sacrificing and believes it is better to give
than to receive. They often play the role of martyr "there
is nothing you could do to make me stop loving you." These
partners often lack self-worth and self-love. People with this
love style are basically parental in nature and live their live
through their partner's.
Sexual Love Style:
Sexual lovers value sexual satisfaction above all other types of
sharing. If sexual satisfaction is maintained by their partner,
any other relationship conflict can be more easily tolerated and
solved. At the first touch of their partner's hand, this style
can tell whether love is a possibility. This type uses sex as a
general cure-all for relationship partners, using sex as a
substitute for talking and problem solving. When angry, they will
most likely withhold sex as "punishment."
Game Playing Love Style:
Game players enjoy searching for truth in their partners. They
pry and shake partners to see how they stand up to crises. They
prefer partners with a developed sense of humor. Compatible
partners must be intelligent, resilient and able to handle the
unexpected. They seek a worthy opponent in this game of life, in
which everyone participates. They don't trust others and are
generally unethical opportunists.
Self-Centered Love Style:
Self-centered lovers tend to avoid intense expressions of love.
They shy away from love, because love translates into being
responsible for others. They are very guarded about personal
freedom and put their needs before their partners. They make few
demands on their partner and don't appreciate the partner making
any on them. They are too self-centered to keep commitments; they
can only give love if they initiate it and NOT if it is demanded
Style: Status seeking lovers are conscious of social
rank and standing. They enjoy being on center stage, and detest
the average or typical. They are trendsetters, attracted to high
achievers with social status and notoriety. Their partner's
physical attractiveness is also very important to them. Their
focus on achieving social status and approval alienates them from
others and creates many secret enemies.
Traditional Love Style:
Traditional lovers seek partners who can affirm and assist them
in satisfying their socialized needs as males and females. They
are monogamous and committed to the institution of marriage.
Sharing a home and rearing children is key. They expect men to
act like men, and women to act like women. Difficulty and
frustration can follow if you step outside the boundaries of
their traditional social roles.
Love Style: These lovers are drawn to partners with
beliefs and lifestyles, which enhance and expand their
self-awareness and knowledge. This attraction is not only an
intellectual or pleasure-seeking pursuit. It is a reality-based
partnership with the primary purpose of sharing uplifting
experiences. They are often moody and over committed. Their
relationships suffer because they get so "caught up" in
their projects and ideas.
Why Guys Like Girls?
You love them,
hate them, wish they would die or know that you would die without
them.... it matters not. Because, once in your life, whatever
they were to the world they become everything to you.
- 1. They will always smell good even if its
- 2. The way their heads always find the
right spot on our shoulder
- 3. How cute they look when they sleep
4. The ease in which they fit into our arms
5. The way they kiss you and all of a sudden everything
is right in the world
6. How cute they are when they eat
7. The way they take hours to get dressed but in the end
it makes it all worth while
8. Because they are always warm even when its minus 0 out
9. The way they look good no matter what they wear
10. How cute they are when they argue
11. The way her hand always finds yours
12. The way they smile
14.The way she says 'lets not fight anymore' even though
you know that an hour later....
15. The way they kiss you when you say 'I love you'
16. Actually... just the way they kiss you...
17. The way they fall into your arms when they cry
18. Then the way they apologize for crying over something
19. The way they hit you and expect it to hurt
20. The way they say 'I miss you'
21. The way you miss them
22. The way their tears make you want to change the world
so that it doesn't hurt her anymore.....
When you look them in the eyes,
traveling to the depths of their souls and you say a million
things without trace of a sound, you know that your own life is
inevitable consumed within the rhythmic beatings of her very
heart. We love them for a million reasons, nothing would do it
justice. It is a thing not of the mind but of the heart. A
feeling. Only felt.